Spankings Work

[Pocahontas]

Originally Posted by Morpheus

Odd view for a granny. Honestly, I'm not sure if spankings work or not. It seems like all spanking did was teach her to hit. Maybe that comes naturally; it's my first child, but I do think that the more we spank, the more aggressive my child is with us. She laughs when we spank her anyway. I don't want to beat her. Time out doesn't seem to work either. Ditto for "standing in the corner". The only thing that really seems to work is redirecting her into another activity. My wife and I often wonder if we're doing the right thing.

I have to say I wasn't much of a spanker and only did so as a last resort, but you do have to make it painful (unfortunately) so as for it to be effective.
If she's laughing it's because she can't feel it.
Have you tried removing a special object (toy/blanket) she enjoys and not giving it back to her til you see improvement of the bad behavior? I'm all for trying other venues first.

[rhertz]

My favoirite quote from Talledaga Nights:

I hereby declare Granny Law.
And if you don't obey...Granny Law...
I'm gunna paint your back porch RED!!

Shake and Bake!!

[AnimeSpirit]

Now I don't have kids myself yet, but I would like to point out the difference between a beating and a spanking. The difference is in the aggression you use. You should NEVER NEVER attempt to spank your child during a moment when you have lost your temper. Your aggression is almost guaranteed to be more than what is needed. That is what teaches your child aggression is ok.

The proper way to spank a child is not unlike the way it was typically done in school years ago when teachers could use corporal punishment. Send the child out of the room for a few moments and tell them to wait outside. This is useful because it gives you a few moments to compose yourself and gives them a few moments to dread what they know is coming. Tell them to bend over and give em a few shots calmly. Afterwards, you sit them down and explain to them why their actions were wrong and express your unwillingness to let it happen again.

[Isaac-Saxxon]

Originally Posted by AnimeSpirit

Now I don't have kids myself yet, but I would like to point out the difference between a beating and a spanking. The difference is in the aggression you use. You should NEVER NEVER attempt to spank your child during a moment when you have lost your temper. Your aggression is almost guaranteed to be more than what is needed. That is what teaches your child aggression is ok.

The proper way to spank a child is not unlike the way it was typically done in school years ago when teachers could use corporal punishment. Send the child out of the room for a few moments and tell them to wait outside. This is useful because it gives you a few moments to compose yourself and gives them a few moments to dread what they know is coming. Tell them to bend over and give em a few shots calmly. Afterwords, you sit them down and explain to them why their actions were wrong and express your unwillingness to let it happen again.

Anime sounds like you need a few kids Make your mom a grandmother again. Did you vote ?

[Pocahontas]

Originally Posted by Isaac-Saxxon

Did you vote ?

I've been wondering that as well, Anime?!

[joepole]

It takes a lot for me to hit my daughter (I have "don't hit girls" so burned into my brain) but my wife can swat with the best of 'em.

[Isaac-Saxxon]

Originally Posted by joepole

It takes a lot for me to hit my daughter (I have "don't hit girls" so burned into my brain) but my wife can swat with the best of 'em.

Come on Pyle I know you are good at spanking If you can't spank them now there will be a price to be paid when they go through the change. I will say when that first "real" boyfriend comes along they will still love daddy BUT see ya later gator sux but it is the natural order of things.I have three daughters 23,21 and 16

[rhertz]

Originally Posted by joepole

It takes a lot for me to hit my daughter (I have "don't hit girls" so burned into my brain) but my wife can swat with the best of 'em.

In our house, all we need to do is pull out the wooden spoon and they scatter running! I hereby give my wife the wooden spoon award for superior home disapline...

[AnimeSpirit]

Originally Posted by Isaac-Saxxon

Did you vote ?

No, unfortunately, I missed the polls this time around. But I'll catch the next one if TBelle will get me a date.