so i'm waiting

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Originally Posted by Al Swearengen

Well, ok, nothing is EVER 100% under our control...but consider this...if you've been married more than once (many of us have, including myself), you've probably come to the conclusion that you KNEW your ex was a bad choice from the getgo, but you married him/her anyway. This was my own personal experience..I settled, for one reason or another. But what if you had delayed engaging in an intimate relationship and having children until you knew in your heart of hearts that you had found the right person for you? The kind of marriage that only death could end. So, there you are, married to your soulmate, and you and said soulmate have children. Those children will grow up in a home with two parents that love each other, so they'll be well-adjusted. Sounds like the makings of a functional fam to me. The alternative is, you get married for all the wrong reasons, have children, get divorced, now your kids have problems, and both parents most likely re-marry and end up in blended families (which we all KNOW are problematic even under the best of circumstances).

What you seem to be describing is the "Cameron Syndrome" as described by Ferris Bueller. Ferris feared that Cameron would marry the first girl who he had an intimate relationship with because she would be the "end all of human existence". Sadly is seems rare when a young couple gets married for the right reasons, because what we may shop for in a person often changes between 18 and 30 years of age. There is nothing quite like having children to change one’s perspective on relationships and life in general.

[Al Swearengen]

Momrules:

What you seem to be describing is the "Cameron Syndrome" as described by Ferris Bueller

I didn't know they had a name for it..I thought it was just called "keep your pants on and grow up a little before you take those vows and start propogating the species..."

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Originally Posted by Al Swearengen

I didn't know they had a name for it..I thought it was just called "keep your pants on and grow up a little before you take those vows and start propogating the species..."

You got it. But Ferris says it in a way that is so pointed. Plus, he is so cute!

[Isaac-Saxxon]

I have been married for 23 years with three daughters that have there
problems but over all are good kids. I have found that keeping "Christ"
in our conversation and reading the Bible works great. It is work to keep
the family on right path. The Word is like Manna you must keep going to
it and read it to have all the blessings from God. I took my vows to my
wife in a Christian ceremony and I pray every day for my children and
my wife (soul mate) and we have ruff times but still going strong and
the children still doing the same. Religion and church are not the same
as reading the Word and praying. This is free and works great !
God Bless
Isaac-Saxxon